I talk with students who often fear they don't have what it takes to do well in college. They are also often reticent to ask for what they need to be successful. The
culprit behind this academically deadly situation is a lack of confidence and assertiveness.
The first step to gaining confidence is to get control of high school success and develop a plan for college success. That plan has to include developing the confidence that the student can succeed with the appropriate help and the courage to ask for any help that is needed.
Today's student lives in a digital world that only shows the successes of friends. To them, they are the only teens on earth who experience self doubt and academic challenges. No one tweets that they just got turned down by a college or failed to make honor roll. All they see is the glowing successes of friends.
Encourage the student in your family to celebrate his successes, no matter how small. Teach him to recognize that what he sees in social media is only part of the story of the lives of his friends. Remind him that he is talented and capable and help him learn good work habits, study skills and assert himself.