 Celebrating your past accomplishments as a mom this Mother's Day, resolve to celebrate a wonderful future with your kids as well by nurturing them and not nagging about college and their future. The junior and senior years of high school are the last 2 years you will have the most influence over your kids. After that, the relationship will be more distant because you are more likely to live apart.Resolve that you will act in a way that celebrates your child's uniqueness, respects budding adulthood and autonomy in your child and insures his future success. For example, if he announces that he is thinking of a career you consider awful, try not to show your horror and get another respected adult into the mix. That person should not be the other parent simply because two nagging parents makes kids feel like you are ganging up on them. That person can be some other family member, a teacher or consultant. Their objectivity can help your teen evaluate choices realistically and takes the emotion out of the equation and protects your relationship. You don't have to be the bearer of bad news likely to be preceived as rejection that could encourage them to stick with bad decisions just because you object. Acknowledge your teen's ideas and get trusted and informed reinforcements to help your teen find what is best for him. Your teen will remember his last few years at home most fondly if his experiences are affirming. Give him good information. Encourage him and get support to help him arrive at the best possible destination. His success as an adult and your opportunity to become a grandparent, depend on it. Happy Mothers Day! |
