Avoid discouraging words. Too many teens have heard the following statements this year:
Discouraging words add to the stress of high school seniors in the fall. And they are not necessary. Students follow a process of discovery when it comes to choosing a college. That process starts with casting a wide net and gradually narrowing down choices to what seems most comfortable to them. In the beginning, there are many colleges on the list with varying admissions criteria. As the process progresses, the
student has taken stock of his qualifications, visited campuses and determined which colleges are most likely to meet his needs.
What students need from parents, teachers and school counselors is encouragement and direction toward solid information. Students also need a nonjudgmental sounding board to allow them to talk out their decision and help managing tasks and timelines.
When it comes to who will get in and who will not...NO ONE can tell you for sure what will happen. Many factors are considered. Colleges work toward taking in students who can do well, contribute to the campus and who represent diverse demographics. The best approach is to guide the student through the process of selecting a variety of colleges. There are plenty of people around who will provide discouragement. Be one of the few who will encourage and support the student in making what is ultimately his decision.