Some of the families who visit me for help are arguing among themselves. The parents tell me that their teen is being uncooperative and difficult. The teen tells me that their parents don't understand that it is their life and they should get to make decisions.
After a few visits, it is often clear that the problem lies in timing more than anything else. Often students and parents have similar goals. Both want the best fit for the student. What is different is that parents are on one time table and students are on another.
The important thing for families to consider is that teens mature at different rates and have different needs. Parents need to resist the temptation to compare what their teens are doing to what teens in other families are up to.
Help your teen move in the best direction for their unique needs and circumstances. Don't demand that they go to a specific college or major in a specific area. Each teen is unique and designed for a mission unique to their gifts and personality. Love them for their uniqueness and help them get to their mission.